Kids don’t really go along with the whole “children should be seen, not heard” thing. They want to participate, contribute, and be accepted. But it’s not always a kid friendly world, even places that claim to be focused on childrens’ well being-like preschool, extra curricular activities, daycares, etc. want kids to be quiet, not ask questions, and not make waves. Even most Martial Arts schools operate from this well meaning (but *really* flawed) mentality.
Instead, we'll treat your child like they matter, like they're worthy of respect. We don't treat them like adults or let them run free, but we do things like give them information and then the opportunity to make their own choices and decisions based on that information (so that when they succeed they know it was THEIR success, and if they fail, they'll be able to take responsibility and try again).